It's crazy to think this was over 3 years ago. Reading this back is both 1.) super embarrassing and 2.) heartbreaking in several ways. Reading this I wish I could go back and tell myself things wouldn't be like that forever, because they weren't. That chaotic mess, in reality, didn't last that long at all. My mom is almost 3 years sober now and drug addiction is one of the farthest things from my mind. However, something I wish I could still have is that hopefulness I can see I had when I wrote this. I could tell myself everything would be okay and things were getting better, I had full faith that things would be okay in the end. That characteristic is something I seem to have lost somewhere along the way, more so now than ever. Obviously I am in a different place than when all of this was actively going on, but this will always be a part of who I am and some of the same feelings apply to my situation now. I wish I could tell 14 year old me that everything would be okay, but truthfully I know I can't say that. A lot of the time it feels like I am not very far from where I was then. Where I am now isn't exactly better, it's just a different place on the same grid. I remember thinking that in a few years I would be this happy person who was outgoing and just vibrant, but I'm not any closer to being that person. Part of me knows 14 year old me would be really disappointed with where I am right now. Depression sucks, a lot. I feel numb and empty most days. I don't say that for pity, just the fact that it is what it is. I remember thinking then if I could just get a new therapist and take some time I would be all better. I have come to realize no amount of talking or positive thinking or even therapy is going to help me if I don't want it to. No one can magically fix me. It's a terrifying realization that I'm the only one who can help me. I can honestly say I feel worse now than I have in a really long time. Although, I don't necessarily think that is a bad thing. It's important to be aware of how I feel and what's going on. I won't say I know it will get better, because obviously I don't know anything. In some ways I'm just as scared now as I was then. Just this time I am more aware of what's going on within myself. Reading this reminded me that sometimes it's okay to just not be okay. Nothing needs a big reason or explanation, sometimes things just are how they are. I don't have a reason to feel depressed like I did then, but it doesn't make it any less valid. I hope I can read this post in another 3 years and feel absolutely ridiculous for even saying any of this. Sorry for the long post, but I felt maybe typing something out would help.
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